Can an Alpha Male Be Sensitive?

Dominant Alpha MaleWhen I first began writing the erotic romance Power Play, I knew that Sergio, my hero, was artistic and very sensual. And in the story, he’d discover he was a dominant. But he also is warm and sensitive. I never categorized him in my mind, or in the promo material I wrote when I sold the book, as anything other than a dominant and a “sensual artist.”

Then when it went up on sale on Amazon, I saw readers tagged the story with the term “Alpha Male.” That made me wonder, was he an alpha male? I hadn’t really thought of that. He’s sweet and polite and considerate. Alphas are typically considered rough around the edges–a wounded heart inside, with a tough skin outside that keeps them from having to feel others’ pain. Can a sensitive man still be an alpha?

On the other hand, he is clearly a dominant. That leads to another pertinent question, are all dominants automatically alphas?

I looked up the definition of “alpha male” as it pertains to humans, and dictionary.com said, “a domineering man; the dominant member in a group of males.” The dominant aspect is critical in the definition, but only as it pertains to other males.

Bruce of Alpha Within posted his opinion that “Alpha male = High-Status Male (amongst other males) …this leads to power which attracts women naturally…” Again the reference is to other males. This matches the definition as it’s used in the animal world.

What about a Dominant/submissive relationship? In this case, Sergio is dominating a very powerful woman, one who clearly has power over both men and woman in her career. Does this make him an alpha? Do we look at his position at work to determine that? He is currently an underling, but about to make partner. In the workforce, alphas do have to defer to other alphas above them, until they get to be the big boss or CEO.

So, is Sergio an atypical Alpha? Or just a sensitive Dom? What do you think?

9 thoughts on “Can an Alpha Male Be Sensitive?

  1. I am married to a beta male that is dominant in the bedroom without a doubt. I have an alpha personality and he is my balance.

    Alpha males, IMO, while attractive on many fronts, usually end up being arrogant and lazy as time passes in a relationship.

    • Hi Lisa, I’m glad you said that–I think that my hero Sergio is really more like a Dominant beta than an alpha, but I don’t think a lot of people see that. Thanks for your input!

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  3. Hi Chellesie–

    Great question. I think that men (like sperm) are genetically programmed to always want to be first. They can’t help it. But, they can learn to be more sensitive–if motivated. 🙂

    Sharon

  4. To me an alpha male is about power. About being the most powerful man in the room/group or wherever. Dominant over others. So Sergio, being a Dom, will definitely be an alpha male – at least in my view. The fact that he is sensitive is an added bonus and makes him one hot, sexy hunk of a hero 🙂

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